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Sometimes it’s a
struggle being a bachelor. You are supposed to be married at your age or at
worse having a reliable girlfriend who you are going to tie the knot with but
you still are single. Yet, there is a lady you are in platonic relationship with
who you catch feeling when she does not pick your phone calls or reply to your
messages. Deep down, you feel like you should have settled down with a lady.
Someone who loves you to bits that once in a while when you mess up, say those
Jezebels happen which they will at some point in time, she will forgive and say that
things happened. But, on your part, you will have to make drastic changes.
Like, no conversations with girls anyhow, no two way step verification she does not know. It hence means that your phone should be at her arms
reach, and other abnormal traits or deeds you are required to observe.
Yeah, ladies can
make us run mad. They know our soft spot and they use it to deny us what we
should be getting. At that point, mwanaume unatuliza mbokoyoyo. Matters that
weakenwe men are so emotional more than we can handle. That is why a man
who loved her wife so much follows quicker than you know it, God forbid, in the
event the wife dies. We men love with all our heart. We may deny it but at the
end of the day, we are like slaves to our women, especially if we have the one
who controls everything in us. Once you find that belle, let her not know that
you are like a ball she can bounce. If you let her know and she realizes that
you are a giver, she will run your tap empty.
Thank goodness, I
am a single guy. However, that does not mean that out there their is no woman I
have not been eyeing to be mine. Obviously, there is that single babe I often
wish I could settle down with, then focus on things like career and making
money and a name. Though it may not be abundant, that I will make something
satisfactory is better in the short term. Lakini, the good thing is that I have
this lady I can tell about my struggles, my happiness, my lows and even hemorrhage
some emotional stuff on her knowing full well that when I go back she will
accept me. That lady keeps me going. Yet we are in a platonic relationship.
Sometimes I wish I could have married her, but I still like the position she
holds of a friend. At least, I can still mess around kidogo when opportunity
presents itself without much ado.
Therefore, I
sometimes wish she got a nice, handsome, tall, dark and faithful guy. The kind
of guy who will be by her side during the times when she is struggling. The
kind of guy who accepts her and recognizes that I was first in her life before
him and therefore I also need my space with my amour. Oh, before they
officially start dating, she should introduce him to me and tell him where I
belong. Lakini, when she is officially gone, I will have to accept the reality
and move on like a gentleman and give them space. Even me, I would not like a
guy who has some control and reign over my woman. I am jealous like Sir God up
in heaven. If it is me, it has to be me. When we share, I am not part of the
equation.
Living alone as a
bachelor has some challenges in as much as it can be addictive. You are not
answerable to anyone. You just feel free and like a bird you roam hoping you
will find Mrs. Right. If things go right, perhaps you get a job. The problem
with being a middleclass burger is that you set the standards of the jobs and
income you want before you settle down. The problem is that you end up wasting
time and money in the quest for what you want. You come to realize later that
time and tide waits for no man.
There are those
times as a bachelor you get so broke, there was a time a friend told me he got
so broke that he could not afford a sheath for some wild romp because, for
real, who wants a baby he cannot take care of and the way babies are expensive
and so involving. You have to forget about sleep until such a time when they
are good to go. Again, with the average girl having like I don't know how many
beaus, ukiongea na ka sponyo, unless you have domesticated her, and she does
not let the cat out of the bag, contraceptives are a must.
Yes, settling down
for a bachelor is hard, especially a guy who graduated from uni. The girls who
are after you are really so many especially if you are in stable employment.
Sometimes, you sample them to find out who really is loyal. Like there was this
chic who sat next to me in a mat saying, 'Aki I was married for the weekend,
now I am going to my house and then I will report back to school after kitu
four or three days." Yeah, she was in a sleevelesss top, and I was in a
fitting polo shirt with short sleeves, so our skin did touch occasionally. She
was also having wide hips and they were really causing a scene down south I had
to ginene.
You see, having one
woman who you don’t live with is good and bad. The bad part is that you may
invest all your emotions in her and maybe she is in it waiting for the next big
thing. Once she lays her hand on that bugger, she will drop you the way a guy
drops a mike and leaves. There is that carefree face of a person who drops a
mike. That is the way a girl drops you when she is finished with you. Yani, she
does not care hata kidogo. The good thing with one girl is that there is a high
likelihood you will get married if you are serious the both of you. So, all in
all, it's always good to have your options diversified. Being an investment student,
I know that an optimal portfolio is the one that is diversified. Make hay while
the sun shines. Brother or sister.
Kenyan men, ati we
are not romantic. I recently went to a certain friend of mine who is a lady. Then she started having a conversation with a certain odiero. They were video calling. I don’t
want to think about what that jungu normally asks her to do in her digs once she
is alone. She told me she does not love company. I know why she does not. That odiero sponsor hates company like all men. Pengine she just wants a guy
who is a day scholar. No, a guy who will turn up, service her and she
is good to go. This chic lives in a big house that I wish I was the one living
in. I would have by now got so many babes some I would have forgotten their
names as a bachelor. But mother nature knows why I still have the energy and
that is why I have to spend it before I get the money and once I have it, I
will be in that state where I cannot be entertaining so many babes. Luckily for
me, I am not a babe’s person. I would only love to have one then the rest as
they say is chemistry and history.
About that chic I visited,
she told me that there is a way Nigerian man does his thing, they call asking. "Babe
are you okay?" and the frequency and the way they give money and
spoil their babes, they just feel loved. Kenyan men on the other hand don’t do
that and still want to be treated with the same care as foreigners who know how
to romance. Oh, they say no romance without finance. Well, the ladies who are
going to get it in their ring fingers are the kind who will be patient for the
finance, if you hurriedly go for finance, go to a place where you can’t spend
all of it at a go.
Hasta La Vista Baby
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